I finally opened up to the man I'm dating and asked him the question .. and this is how the conversation went:
Him:"Would you take me in hand when we get married?"
Me:"Please explain in hand."
Him:"I meant would take control of our relationship? Put down rules and consequences."
I did not respond after that because I felt so disappointed. And my eyes teared up a little. He's a very good man and I like him a lot, and I felt that he was dominate to some degree, but now after having his answer, I'm not as thrilled and excited as I used to be regarding our future together. I don't know that to do. My mind is filled with questions, should I just accept his way and focus on the positive aspects of his personality? Or settling down like that would make me secretly unhappy? (because I know how much I desire this lifestyle. Nothing excites more). Or should I try to convince him? If yes, how?"No, I would hope you would be respectful, honorable, loyal, and with common sense you would have the intuition what is acceptable and not acceptable in public. I hope you would take care of me in the home and when in the home you should be able to be yourself. All of this also applied to me, OK. And yes the only thing I wish for is that you are submissive with me when it comes to intimate time."
I really need your advice. Did any of you have to convince her partner to try DD?
I'm not going to respond to him until I read your advice.