Great to be here! I'm Yannick, a Dutch guy looking to share experiences and (virtually) meet like-minded people with a DD household. There's pretty few people in my country that seem to have such a set-up, let alone want to share about it, so after some googling here I am!
My wife and I (we met 12 years ago, married four now) are both in our thirties, we have two kids (1 and 4) and live in the middle of the country. We've had quite some struggles in our relationship, mostly smaller annoyances which grew especially once we moved in together. But also some more serious issues that grew into arguments.
During a late-night discussion I found a link to the Spencer Spanking Plan, which clicked with both of us. We each had some experiences with spanking, although more for fun than for discipline. So we knew what we were getting into, but still it was some journey to work out all the kinks.
Our basic rhythm now is to do a weekly evaluation and punishment; she receives hers on Friday evening and I get mine on Tuesdays. We don't have specific written-down rules, it's more a way to channel the frustrations and reflect on the week. But still, it works, we both have made significant improvements in how we communicate, take on the chores and so on.
I'll be lurking for a bit and join in on new conversations. As I'm in a different timezone from most of the people here I might be responding at weird times for you, hope that's ok
Anyway, if you have any questions just post them below!
