Life threatening illness and motivation

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CassLynn
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Re: Life threatening illness and motivation

Post by CassLynn » Tue May 08, 2018 3:31 pm

Oh my goodness. What a challenge. I used to feel picked on by God/the universe for having so many difficulties to deal with that didn’t seem to give me a break for 20 years or so. Now that I’m getting better I’m feeling more like God must really trust my strength and faith to put me through all of that. And that the person I can become if I don’t give up will be deeper and stronger and wiser than who I would have been had I had more short term struggles and not this monstrosity that nearly crushed me. I have let go of the idea that pain and suffering are all bad or unfair or damaging. Now I tell myself that pain is ok. Struggle is ok. Hurt is ok. I will be victorious in the end. All things unfair will come out ok in the end. I suppose an analogy can be made to the benefits of DD along those lines. Accept the pain and embrace it if you can. It’s to make you a better person. I really feel for you. I’d hug you if I could. Never give up!!!

Maybe on a day when you’re feeling able you could ask your husband to do an affirmation spanking. They have helped me so much! How that works is while I’m over his knee being paddled he gives me some truths that I need help believing, like he’ll say the work you do in our home is very valuable and I have to repeat it and agree to it over and over. This helps me so much to get rid of stuck negative ideas like all I do is chores and my life is empty. So for you it could be something like you are to never give up or you are strong enough for this challenge. And you would repeat that while you’re in the receptive state of being spanked and feeling submissive and the most open to suggestion. I guess it’s a little like having a suggestion placed while under hypnosis. I don’t know about anyone else but for me this has been an extremely powerful exercise. And your husband is not punishing you he’s kind of giving you therapy. Providing you with a state of mind that can accept very hard to accept ideas that your psyche is deeply resistant to. Just an idea that has worked for me. I so wish you the best!

I was proof reading and thought maybe I should do a post about affirmation and processing spankings for depression/anxiety/ PTSD. I’m going to copy that part and make another post out of it.

KrystalA
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Re: Life threatening illness and motivation

Post by KrystalA » Tue May 08, 2018 3:47 pm

Very good idea. I will look forward to reading that new topic.

subwife2020
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Re: Life threatening illness and motivation

Post by subwife2020 » Tue Dec 18, 2018 12:00 pm

I'm really sorry to hear you're struggling with depression. It is a dark and lonely road. I suffer from depression I've recently come out of a deep two-year depression for year of it I was highly suicidal and couldn't be left alone without supervision. I was not doing DD then I am now I'm also in the mental place where I can do DD. Just in the last week alone my husband leaving out a list of what I'm supposed to have done in the day helps me Focus my thoughts. I don't find myself spending my days in bed crying anymore. However I did two years of extensive therapy group therapy DBT training EMDR and I had a psychiatrist as well. I was also on my meds and I took them religiously I had to do a lot of work to get out of that hole and I learned a lot of skills to manage when I feel like that dark place is coming back. My number one priority is to my mental health if something is wearing it down it must go immediately. Point Blank if it gets to a place where I can reassess and maybe bring that element back into my life fine. Do you have a psychiatrist do you have a therapist are you on medications? Because if you're not I hope that you seek these things out immediately and if it seems too heavy for you I hope you feel safe being vulnerable with members in your community to ask them for help. I feel so badly for you I wish I could just reach out and help you. Is undescribable what you're going through. I just want you to remember that depression lies to you, and tells you a bunch of bullshit about yourself and none of it is true.
If you ever need to talk feel free to p.m. me

KrystalA
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Re: Life threatening illness and motivation

Post by KrystalA » Fri Jan 04, 2019 8:11 pm

subwife2020 wrote:
Tue Dec 18, 2018 12:00 pm
I'm really sorry to hear you're struggling with depression. It is a dark and lonely road. I suffer from depression I've recently come out of a deep two-year depression for year of it I was highly suicidal and couldn't be left alone without supervision. I was not doing DD then I am now I'm also in the mental place where I can do DD. Just in the last week alone my husband leaving out a list of what I'm supposed to have done in the day helps me Focus my thoughts. I don't find myself spending my days in bed crying anymore. However I did two years of extensive therapy group therapy DBT training EMDR and I had a psychiatrist as well. I was also on my meds and I took them religiously I had to do a lot of work to get out of that hole and I learned a lot of skills to manage when I feel like that dark place is coming back. My number one priority is to my mental health if something is wearing it down it must go immediately. Point Blank if it gets to a place where I can reassess and maybe bring that element back into my life fine. Do you have a psychiatrist do you have a therapist are you on medications? Because if you're not I hope that you seek these things out immediately and if it seems too heavy for you I hope you feel safe being vulnerable with members in your community to ask them for help. I feel so badly for you I wish I could just reach out and help you. Is undescribable what you're going through. I just want you to remember that depression lies to you, and tells you a bunch of bullshit about yourself and none of it is true.
If you ever need to talk feel free to p.m. me
Thank you for your response SubWife2020. I appreciate that. I am slowly getting by with each day. I do go back to my specialist on Monday so that will help :)

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