Stress Relief Spankings

[Calderon32]

I am new to DD. I am the submissive wife. I have heard stress relief spankings mentioned. What are those and how do they differ? Anyone here using these? Thanks for your help.

[Lauren]

Stress relief spankings are just that. Spankings to relieve stress. They are not punishments and they are not used as reminders. Most of the time the Submissive will ask the Head for one if they are stressed out. But the Head can suggest it if they see the Sub is stressed out. Spanking releases endorphins which lowers stress levels. The act of crying also relieves stress.

[Calderon32]

Makes total sense. Thanks so much for your response!

[cowboy]

Let me chime in too. When I was still working, stress relief spankings were used. It is funny, she just knew when I needed one. At times, just before I was preparing for work, she would administer a good stress relief spanking and I would go off with a much better mindset. Stress relief spankings do work!!!

[Kerry]

I had to somehow bring it up to Brian tonight. I didn’t know what he is thinking. Extremely stressful day at work and I told him I think I feel better when I’m spanked. I’ll see him Friday so maybe we’ll discuss it more but he replied if that works for me, I should use it. Just not sure what I think of stress vs maintenance vs punishment and how they would differ.

[cowboy]

I can give you the differences in our relationship.... Discipline spankings are meant to hurt and be effective in changing your behavior. Maintenance spankings are meant to remind a sub of their role and what's in store for misbehavior. Here, they are administered with a warm up, a safe word is optional and they include some sort of after care. Punishment spankings do not include any of those items. Stress relief spankings are meant to release endorphins to relieve stress and put your mind in a good place away from the stress cause. Basically to make you feel good.

[Getovermyknee]

Hi all, not been here a while but just came across this post and thought I'd offer my experience. I' not as such in a DD relationship or any relationship at the moment but I do see a girl here and spank her for stress relief and she'll say it really does relax her, so much in fact that it sends her all floaty and regularly texts me to say 'I need to go over your knee'

[Ezz]

Stress relief spankings are just that. Spankings to relieve stress. They are not punishments and they are not used as reminders. Most of the time the Submissive will ask the Head for one if they are stressed out. But the Head can suggest it if they see the Sub is stressed out. Spanking releases endorphins which lowers stress levels. The act of crying also relieves stress.

I do get stressed, sometimes quite severely, from time to time but I have never actually asked for a stress relief spanking. Neither have I particularly wanted one when I have received it, but I do agree that afterwards, I am in a better place, calmer, and better able to deal with whatever it was causing me the upset or panic. A case of "Jez knows best" for sure.

[Lauren]

Some people are just more intune with their bodies and would rather have the stress go away faster, thus asking for a stress relief spanking, rather then waiting for the HOH to realize it.

[Ezz]

Good luck, DDwife. I am confident that it will work!