Hello from Canada

Please take your time and introduce yourself to us - why Domestic Discipline, are you married, how your relationship progressed...
ex-hoh
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Re: Hello from Canada

Post by ex-hoh » Wed Sep 30, 2020 10:24 am

Lauren wrote:
Tue Sep 29, 2020 5:38 pm
ex-hoh wrote:
Tue Sep 29, 2020 1:04 pm
My wife however saw a pastor on Youtube, and got hooked on him. He became the head of the house, and I needed to obey him.
What do you mean by this? How did the Pastor become Head of the Household? Why did YOU need to obey the Pastor?

P.S. Please be careful how you word things. Saying your wife ONLY had to take care of the home and children is really disrespectful. It is a full time job and is not a piece of cake. Please give her the credit she deserves.
Sure... That was not my intent. I seem to remember writing all this in the life was wonderful part. It was never something that I thought was small at all. In fact I personally believe it is a very important task hence why it is mentioned in the bible. I think it is sad that too many people put that job down, and push women away form wanting to, or being proud about it.

ex-hoh
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Re: Hello from Canada

Post by ex-hoh » Wed Sep 30, 2020 10:28 am

leenicolelinn wrote:
Wed Sep 30, 2020 6:20 am

It is very hard to look into someone's life by just a paragraph, there are a lot of assumptions. My first assumption is that your wife was not content or happy, something was wrong because she was "searching" for something. Unfortunately she found it on YouTube and it does not sound good. I am sorry for that. Also I may be totally wrong, again it may be a wrong assumption.

May I ask how you used DD when you found out she was doing this YouTube pastor thing? I am sure there is much history in trying to get her away from that.

Anyway. Welcome
Nic
1. Agreed 100%, that is why it was a tough call as one has to realize when the answer to the solution is not you.
2. I did not use DD to stop it. You can't discipline someone that does not respect you, or does not see you as the head. I never tried. I decided to use the scripture to combat the things that he was saying that I knew was against the Bible.

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DesertRose
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Re: Hello from Canada

Post by DesertRose » Wed Sep 30, 2020 3:19 pm

Welcome!
I hope you will find the right woman soon, or maybe you will unite with your wife again.
🌸 I want a husband who will love me enough to punish me.
DesertRose

SomewhatDefiant
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Re: Hello from Canada

Post by SomewhatDefiant » Tue Oct 06, 2020 7:26 pm

Jacob HF wrote:
Wed Sep 30, 2020 9:09 am
ex-hoh wrote:
Tue Sep 29, 2020 5:59 pm
I am not sure how much this board supports anything religious
I am very forward about my faith here and haven't gotten any pushback at all.

--Jacob
I’m with Jacob here. Many people (including myself) are very open about our faith, even to the point of debating theological points. Never seen it cause any issues.

Frank69
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Re: Hello from Canada

Post by Frank69 » Wed Dec 16, 2020 10:08 am

What happens between a husband and a wife should not be broken into by anyone from outside, be it a 'pastor' or a 'lover' trying to get one to commit adultery for a challenge. The only exception is of course if one or the other is doing outright violence to the other one - moral or physical. DD is not violence. It is a contract entered into voluntarily within the Christian context where the Tih recognizes the authority of the Lord and her HOH, including the authority to punish. As trusted the wife can punish as well: not by hitting her man or withdrawing sex, but by grounding her man, for instance, for unacceptable behavior as discussed at prayer time. Given that women are usually more prone to emotional chaos than men, though, it is usually the woman who will need discipline, and this goes inevitably through her naked buttocks until tears are drawn and emotions are brought back into a control zone. Many increasingly understand that maintenance spankings every week or every two weeks, followed by a caring love session, are the best formula to keep a woman in line besides obvious disciplinary spankings when the Tih gets seriously out of line. However having the power to discipline does not mean a man should become a tyrant for his wife. She is entitled to her activities, her autonomy, all the while knowing her emotional and sexual attachment to her HOH is something that should never be questioned by a God-fearing female. Many women would probably appreciate being more 'directed' than they are but many are also afraid to ask - and in this society many men have been frightened of asserting their authority, including the act of spanking which some would consider abuse. It is not absue in a Christian Covenant marriage where both partners consent. Consenting doesn't mean, though, that the female will cry and whine less when the time comes for a punitive or maintenance spanking and her panties are pulled down to her knees... :lol:

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