Does anyone in your regular life know you’re DD?

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Re: Does anyone in your regular life know you’re DD?

Post by MikeG » Mon Apr 01, 2019 4:58 pm

My wifes best friends knows and also her mom. No big deal luckily, but we also wish we could be more open about it. As others said, too many feminists out there

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Re: Does anyone in your regular life know you’re DD?

Post by Miras » Tue Apr 02, 2019 12:01 am

MikeG wrote:
Mon Apr 01, 2019 4:58 pm
My wifes best friends knows and also her mom. No big deal luckily, but we also wish we could be more open about it. As others said, too many feminists out there
Well...
1) We must declare that most of thrashing husbands have absolutely nothing against thrashed husbands.

2) We must use this school of feminism as our founding stone - http://disciplinedfeminist.blogspot.com/

Among other things... I honostly long for harmony and equal rights and as I said myself, I have slight ideological/psychological problems with DD, but this can be eventually overcame for the entire society, if it proves to be objective problem solver and abusers will be still prosecuted.
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Re: Does anyone in your regular life know you’re DD?

Post by NateG » Tue Apr 02, 2019 11:51 am

nicolelinn45 wrote:
Mon Apr 01, 2019 4:28 pm
My husbands best friend knows and it is no big deal. No one else knows. I wish we could be more open and just live our DD lives in public. Too many feminatzi's (feminists) out there! You never know what they may do to complicate your life thinking that they know what is best. I guess that is why we have sites like this.

Nic
I completely agree. We should be able to be more open with it.

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Re: Does anyone in your regular life know you’re DD?

Post by Miras » Tue Apr 02, 2019 12:42 pm

NateG wrote:
Tue Apr 02, 2019 11:51 am
nicolelinn45 wrote:
Mon Apr 01, 2019 4:28 pm
My husbands best friend knows and it is no big deal. No one else knows. I wish we could be more open and just live our DD lives in public. Too many feminatzi's (feminists) out there! You never know what they may do to complicate your life thinking that they know what is best. I guess that is why we have sites like this.

Nic
I completely agree. We should be able to be more open with it.
In my other post I´ve called the opening process "Coming out of woodshed". Sometimes I think it will be the first giant society-wide revolution of the 21st century.
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Re: Does anyone in your regular life know you’re DD?

Post by Evena » Tue Apr 02, 2019 1:02 pm

I wish I could, but I got a public job, which would be economic sucide. And i could count on a trip to the womens shelter, regardless of my own whishes. So no public coming out for us.

Much love

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Re: Does anyone in your regular life know you’re DD?

Post by NateG » Tue Apr 02, 2019 1:24 pm

yep....sad...but that is probably true.

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Re: Does anyone in your regular life know you’re DD?

Post by Miras » Wed Apr 03, 2019 1:49 am

This would be complicated for a lot of people, but what we need is presentation by internet vloggers, preferably by submissive partners. The only one I registered is Yahshell (who might have done 2 posts on this very forum - memberlist.php?mode=viewprofile&u=343) from the YouTube channel about "Black Domestic Discipline" . I consider it a little strange, but I guess African Americans like to stick to their community.
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Re: Does anyone in your regular life know you’re DD?

Post by Miras » Sun Apr 07, 2019 3:23 pm

Another update from my family: Dad told my aunt (his sister). She´s worried about me.
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Re: Does anyone in your regular life know you’re DD?

Post by my Wife knows best » Wed Aug 07, 2019 1:20 am

Yes.
My wife, being the decision maker in our marriage, decides who does and doesn't know the details of our marital dynamic. For the first couple of years of our marriage, it was only her family (my in laws) who she told, as well as a couple of her closest friends.
As of about 9 months ago, she informed my family members aswell as our own children, including her daughter from her first marriage.
While really rather embarrassing to begin with, most are very understanding once the reasons for it are explained. From my wife's point of view, the main reason for her telling my mother is to give me additional motivation to keep my behaviour in check, as my wife is very well aware how embarrassed and ashamed I can get when she is telling other people, family in particular, about my misbehaving and the discipline she administers to me. Family dinners where this becomes a topic of conversation can be particularly humiliating, which is a huge motivation for me to abide by my wife's rules.
The rules of my marriage dictate that all of my internet and social activity is strictly monitored by my Wife/ HOH. Please don't hesitate to let me know if I ever behave inappropriately, so that my Wife may correct me. Thanks :)

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Re: Does anyone in your regular life know you’re DD?

Post by Ezz » Thu Oct 17, 2019 3:00 am

I know this is an old thread but has some relatively recent posts. I've not had a (good) reason to post here before but my situation changed a little while ago so here goes.

Nobody had ever known about our DD lifestyle before and we've been living it for 7 years so it was all very private, apart from, of course friends in the online world. Then Jez's brother and partner found out one day when we were at their house. It was an odd situation where I was 'cautioned' by Jez, subtly, but enough that his brother's girlfriend picked up on it and asked if 'everything was ok between us'. It just felt right and appropriate to tell them. Jez looked at me, I looked at him, and without a word being spoken between us, we both knew that the time was right.

It was Jez that explained to both of them with me joining in later, adding details here and there. They were fascinated (never heard of DD before) and didn't at first ask many questions. They just sat, spellbound, listening. I don't think they took it all in straight away, almost struck dumb but were surprisingly eager to hear our story. Questions did follow in the coming days and weeks and we are now quite open about it, not in a showy off sort of way, but we don't avoid the topic if it arises.

It is somehow quite pleasant to go to visit them, knowing that they know, and we can talk about DD openly without being judged or criticised. They are quite surprisingly accommodating and accepting of it all and 'coming out' has been easy, at least with them. Obviously, until you 'come out' and explain, there's no way to tell how anyone is going to react so perhaps we were lucky in this case. Despite this success though, we have never felt the need or had the courage to tell anyone else in our lives.
If I'm not smart, Jez will make me smart :)

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