I am curious - and not yellow.
Re: I am curious - and not yellow.
I was definitely being facetious there. I certainly don't mean to imply that it's only upside for the dom and downside for the sub. The relationship, at it's core, can be mutually nurturing and beneficial, a win-win situation for both you and your spouse, however you decide and agree to handle it.
Re: I am curious - and not yellow.
Oh, I certainly "win" plenty. An example from just a few days ago- I was going to be punished for something but after discussing it prior to the punishment I convinced my husband that I really shouldn't be punished. I "won" as you put it. Dionysyus also frequently puts my needs first despite being the HoH. He will do things like re-fill my water bottle for me if I have forgotten and already got into bed without filling it, or fetch things for me if I am occupied with the children and unable. Just because he's the Dominant and I'm the submissive doesn't mean that everything is only ever for his benefit. It's actually a very reciprocal relationship based on mutual respect. However, I'm the one who gets punished for wrong doings, and he's the one who always has the final say in everything (with taking my opinions into strong consideration).
Re: I am curious - and not yellow.
Yes. I definitely see that. I was really being a bit facetious. I'm not questioning the roles you have adopted in your DD relationship. And frankly, a lot of you subs out there sound like awesome spouses. Probably better than my wife - I can say that because she won't see this.
Your dom husbands and wives are very lucky and I hope they appreciate you all.

Lovely wrote: ↑Tue Jul 17, 2018 5:58 pmOh, I certainly "win" plenty. An example from just a few days ago- I was going to be punished for something but after discussing it prior to the punishment I convinced my husband that I really shouldn't be punished. I "won" as you put it. Dionysyus also frequently puts my needs first despite being the HoH. He will do things like re-fill my water bottle for me if I have forgotten and already got into bed without filling it, or fetch things for me if I am occupied with the children and unable. Just because he's the Dominant and I'm the submissive doesn't mean that everything is only ever for his benefit. It's actually a very reciprocal relationship based on mutual respect. However, I'm the one who gets punished for wrong doings, and he's the one who always has the final say in everything (with taking my opinions into strong consideration).