Hello from Palestine

[mimi9khalid]

Sure. A punishment spanking for me a least will leave red marks and maybe a little bruising but nothing like scars or bleeding. Some people on this forum have said they have gotten welts (a swollen mark). I haven't gotten that yet but my husband and I are new to this and he is going to start using more than his hand depending on the infraction.

Yes, it is more severe here. How long has your husband been disciplining you for? Did you marry recently or did you decide to start later?

[Award01]

We've been married for 5 years and have recently implemented domestic discipline. Is there an understanding of what the rules of the household are and what the consequences are if broken? Do you feel more connected to your husband after he's disciplined you?... Considering it's more severe there, which I thought it might be, I think it would be difficult to not feel resentful. I'm guessing breaking the skin is common? What do you mean by it is more severe there?
Have you heard of aftercare (him holding you and assuring you of his love after he's punished you?)

[mimi9khalid]

We've been married for 5 years and have recently implemented domestic discipline. Is there an understanding of what the rules of the household are and what the consequences are if broken? Do you feel more connected to your husband after he's disciplined you?... Considering it's more severe there, which I thought it might be, I think it would be difficult to not feel resentful. I'm guessing breaking the skin is common? What do you mean by it is more severe there?
Have you heard of aftercare (him holding you and assuring you of his love after he's punished you?)

I am very happy for you and your husband, I hope it is beneficial for both of you

Yes, the rules are not written but there is an understanding. I know he disciplines me out of love, and it helps me stay on track so I am not resentful (even if I might be in the moment). Sometimes there are cuts and bruises but nothing that doesn't heal eventually.

I've never heard of this term, but this is what my husband does already

[DesertRose]

We've been married for 5 years and have recently implemented domestic discipline. Is there an understanding of what the rules of the household are and what the consequences are if broken? Do you feel more connected to your husband after he's disciplined you?... Considering it's more severe there, which I thought it might be, I think it would be difficult to not feel resentful. I'm guessing breaking the skin is common? What do you mean by it is more severe there?
Have you heard of aftercare (him holding you and assuring you of his love after he's punished you?)

I know the questions were not for me, but I would like to explain that family structure in the middle-east is old-fashioned or traditional. So it's still understood that the husband is the head of the household, just like Europe or America in the 50s. Even though women here have jobs and some of them financially independent, within marriage, it's understood that she should obey her husband. That's why terms like DD or aftercare..etc are not necessary. It's just marriage.

[Award01]

Thank you. Yeah I am beginning to understand that. I like that it's traditional. But I feel sadly that it may be easy for abuse to take place.

[DesertRose]

Thank you. Yeah I am beginning to understand that. I like that it's traditional. But I feel sadly that it may be easy for abuse to take place.

No this is not the case. Domestic violence is a worldly issue, it has no culture or place. Yes, marriage here is traditional, but violent beating is not acceptable, and husbands who abuse their wives are looked down on. Personally, in my family and among close friends husbands never discipline their wives physically .. Maybe that's why I've been looking online. I just need to be spanked

[Award01]

DesertRose,
Are you from the Middle East? From my research violence is more common against women in Africa and the Middle East. Yes domestic violence is a worldwide issue, but certain cultures are more accepting than others, so it seems anyway..

[DesertRose]

DesertRose,
Are you from the Middle East? From my research violence is more common against women in Africa and the Middle East. Yes domestic violence is a worldwide issue, but certain cultures are more accepting than others, so it seems anyway..

Yes, I am from the middle east. I guess the media painted a certain image about our culture that is not true. I see domestic violence is common in the west. I guess it's case by case issue, not cultural.

[Award01]

The media does lie, no argument there. Yes, the Middle East is painted as a notorious region. From a very young age I was taught that it is a very violent area of the world.

[DesertRose]

The media does lie, no argument there. Yes, the Middle East is painted as a notorious region. From a very young age I was taught that it is a very violent area of the world.

Let's pray for peace for the whole world.