Please take your time and introduce yourself to us - why Domestic Discipline, are you married, how your relationship progressed...
It's been helpful for us to talk about things.... so we try to put aside time each night to talk about goals/ rules and our progress on them...we also try to talk before we go out somewhere that might be more relaxed or public- just a little refresher on the rules/ expectations and what I can expect if I break them.
I have been involved in DD for many years and consistency is often brought up. It might be a good idea to set aside a regular time very week it doesn’t have to be a too long just to discuss your week ie attitude, behaviour , obedience etc if your HOH believes he has overlooked something then that’s a good opportunity to discipline you there and then. Although your HOH must continue to discipline you as soon as practically possible after any infraction not leave it until you set aside time. KarlMal wrote: ↑Fri May 29, 2020 12:00 amAny personal advice? I've read on here that alot of couples struggle with this.. it's like I feel like we finally get on track, until life gets in the way for whatever reason. Sometimes it does leave me feeling like he doesn't care about this aspect of our relationship bc I seem to always be the one who brings it back into focus. When it's good it's great, and when we are off track- well, it sucks.
I'm sorry, Mal, I just saw this. I think adult DD is difficult because most of us are just not "bad" that much. I suspect the best answer is regular maintenance spankings, or else you ask for a spanking when you feel you need it, for stress relief, or whatever. I realize that our "kink" revolves around real punishment, but I just think this isn't that realistic for us adults. I know that most of the time I have to ask for spankings, and it's more satisfying the infrequent times my wife initiates, but I guess that means I'm being an at least OK husband most of the time.