Perhaps I could add some thoughts from a HoH perspective, twilight?twilight wrote: ↑Mon Mar 23, 2020 5:23 pmI agree, I would much rather be over his knee. I think he feels it might be uncomfortable for me. He could sit on the bed or sofa and my upper body could rest there. I would absolutely dread the hair brush. Wouldn't it hurt 2X as hard as his hand? Plus in the realm of submissive behavior, he feels I should be able to hold position.
Since you'd prefer to be OTK, I'd be surprised if your husband won't take this on board -- but you may need to explain fully to him how much you desire it. If he fears you'd be uncomfortable, let that discussion be part of the communication process between you. Besides, a certain amount of discomfort is part of the TiH experience....
In my own case, and from talking to other guys, flipping a lady OTK to spank her is classic DD practice. And since DD is often practised by "traditional" couples, the idea of a wife draped across her husband's knee for correction may seem like part of an old-fashioned "natural order" in which accountability was expected and authority was exercised.
As for holding position, this should improve with practice. But as implements of correction are introduced, each one may present a new challenge in terms of retaining posture. OTK can assist in this respect - if you're tall enough that your hands are placed palm-down on the floor, this helps to maintain balance.
If you're not tall enough, you could try the two-chairs format. This involves two soft-seated chairs pushed together back-to-back. You kneel on the first and place your hands palms-down on the second. In this elevated all-fours posture, your bottom is perfectly presented for spanking and you have stability and security.
Hope this helps - good luck going forward.