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Domestic Discipline Bootcamp (for beginners)

Posted: Tue Oct 03, 2017 7:50 am
by Clint
As we've recently announced on Twitter and Facebook, we'll probably launch "Domestic Discipline Bootcamp (for beginners)" in the middle of November.

Given that the guide doesn't receive so many comments, it'll probably be a one time sale, so that we can gauge the reactions and improve the book after this sale.
If you want to stay tuned, you can sign up to our email newsletter here:

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or just leave a comment here. What would you like to see in this book? What would you expect?
Right now we're still working on the content, so your input is appreciated!

Thanks

Re: Domestic Discipline Bootcamp (for beginners)

Posted: Wed Oct 18, 2017 8:24 pm
by Kerry
I used the couples challenges as examples for boot camp assignments when I explained it to Brian. I'm interested in more ideas for assignments. I also wonder about 4 spankings in a day, planned, plus random. I read that each has a lesson but I wonder what those lessons are and how to create the whole program. I want to know how to plan the camp so it seriously challenges me and finds true submissive feelings and remorse, which is something difficult for me. A challenge for me is honesty and full disclosure. I fear direct questions but don't know how to improve without them. I read that all privileges are initially removed and I wonder what that means to u. I'm open to the full experience, probably with no reservations. I just need more suggestions for what the program would entail. I am excited to read more about boot camp.

Re: Domestic Discipline Bootcamp (for beginners)

Posted: Thu Oct 19, 2017 2:32 pm
by Clint
Kerry wrote:
Wed Oct 18, 2017 8:24 pm
I used the couples challenges as examples for boot camp assignments when I explained it to Brian. I'm interested in more ideas for assignments. I also wonder about 4 spankings in a day, planned, plus random. I read that each has a lesson but I wonder what those lessons are and how to create the whole program. I want to know how to plan the camp so it seriously challenges me and finds true submissive feelings and remorse, which is something difficult for me. A challenge for me is honesty and full disclosure. I fear direct questions but don't know how to improve without them. I read that all privileges are initially removed and I wonder what that means to u. I'm open to the full experience, probably with no reservations. I just need more suggestions for what the program would entail. I am excited to read more about boot camp.
Nice, thanks for writing this! Yeah, we're excited to :)
We will publish a post, next week hopefully, on what this program entails ...!
What do you mean with "direct questions"?

Re: Domestic Discipline Bootcamp (for beginners)

Posted: Thu Oct 19, 2017 3:50 pm
by Kerry
So if a lesson or assignment or any part of the boot camp forced me to answer specific blunt questions, I might resort to lying to protect myself or indirectly protect him

Re: Domestic Discipline Bootcamp (for beginners)

Posted: Sat Oct 21, 2017 7:40 pm
by Mt4fun
Michael has been struggling with consistency, and I with becoming a better submissive, so I went digging for more information and ran across a style of a boot camp that may work well for us, especially with children in the house and the inability to have an entire weekend free. This one I found allows a way to work around the children, without them knowing any different. Things can be altered or avoided to work with your particular situation. Does anyone have any other suggestions or ideas, or does this sound like too much?

The initial "set-up" and mindsets necessary for a "training period":

A. The most important thing for the HOH to do is not only to "exert his authority" daily but several times "randomly" throughout the day and night. One specific point: from the start of the "training period" and consistently throughout it, the HOH can and should issue some orders directly and some of them "casually", (like casually during a meal, or while watching television ). Even calling or emailing her from work to have her "submit" to something.

B. He must always use a specific tone of voice and/or address her in a way that cues her in that he is issuing an order. (like using her full name instead of her nickname). FYI: The same tone and manner in which he addresses her (when exerting his authority as HOH) should be carried over into daily life once the training period is over. Recognizing that tone is the easiest habit to learn first and makes the transition into "real life" much smoother.

C. The HOH should additionally issue an "order" at least once in the middle of the night and do this at least 3 times a week (but every night for the duration of the training period is better). Again, this acts as a reminder for the wife of who is in control at all times.
The HOH can also require she sets an alarm to get up at 4:00 or 5:00am to perform some discipline. (i.e. corner or kneeling time, writing lines, doing a chore/task).

D. The HOH should have the mindset that he is issuing orders "because he can" instead of "because she deserves it". Reminding himself that he is teaching her (with her consent) helps remove any "guilt" the HOH may have for issuing random and/or "underserved" disciplines. Following are some suggestions on orders the HOH can issue to teach and/or help his wife practice her submission to him: (fyi: the objective of some of these orders is to humble her):

1.) To start the "training period", the wife should be spanked first thing in the morning or prior to the HOH leaving the house to go to work every morning for the duration of the training period. This can serve as a “Daily Maintenance Spanking” for the duration. The spanking can be a few swats with his belt as he dresses or as severe as the HOH feels like or has the time and/or desire to administer. Establishing this routine for "training" is especially effective in teaching her that, from the moment she wakes up, the HOH is in control. Whether it's a few swats or not, the swats must be painful and serve as a reminder for her throughout the day.

2.) Corner time and/or Kneeling time. (These are always very specific as to the position she should be in, what she is wearing, how long etc.) Using nipple clamps, restraining or positioning her hands/legs, using rice to kneel on or applying a heating lotion can be added to make it more physically uncomfortable and "a harder lesson" to submit to. The HOH can/should also randomly throughout the weeks "double or triple" this time by ordering her to return for another period of kneeling or back to the corner immediately after she "reports" to him that she has completed her "time". He can/should do this as many times as he wants as his continually forcing her to repeat that discipline for up to several hours is, after all, one of the purposes of this period of time: “practice”.

3.) Placing her into "discipline" position. I.e.: ordering her to lie (exposed) over his knee or to bend over the bed, dresser, table, chair etc. and remain in that position until he releases her.
Giving her an actual spanking isn't necessarily required because she's supposed to be "practicing" getting into and staying in position when he tells her to.
She should NOT be told the length of time she is to remain in this position but told to remain there until he releases her.

4.) Enforced Nudity. The HOH randomly and often orders his wife to remove some or all of her clothes. This puts her in a "vulnerable state of mind". He can do this either in the course of routine daily life (like while watching tv or having a meal during which he orders his wife to expose herself to him by unbuttoning or take off her shirt or to remove all of her clothes and just remain that way while they go about whatever they were doing until he tells her to re-dress) or as a specific command for her to present herself before him naked, forcing her to stand before him silently until he tells her to re-dress.
If they are alone in the house, he can order her stand or kneel in the middle of the room while HE goes about whatever he was doing. Or, if there are other people being in the house, he requires her to be naked under a robe and then has the option of ordering her to hold the robe open while she stands or kneels before him with her back to the entrance of the room so that the robe can be immediately closed should anyone approach.
The HOH can choose to lecture her (about his authority, her required submission, negative behaviors etc) during this time or choose to be silent or to ignore her. The point is her nakedness and the vulnerability it produces in her.

5.) Spankings. (Much like maintenance but solely for the "reason" of because he feels like it and these spankings are NOT in place of “morning maintenance”).

6.) Instructing her to ask for a spanking and requiring her to choose the implement. (Obviously an implement or "type" of spanking that they both know she especially dislikes is the goal here).

7.) Requiring her to address him as "Sir" either at all times for the duration of a discipline.

8.) Requiring her to thank him for any and all discipline whether it was spanking or non-spanking discipline and regardless of whether it was punishment or practice.

(#7 and #8 must be clearing established by the HOH at the beginning of the training period if he chooses to employ it for the duration of the training)

9.) Writing lines. They should be specific to a behavior the HOH wants changed/improved. A variation would be to copy (by hand) articles specific to HOH, LDD, submission, etc. or Bible verses, chapters.

10.) Requiring her to ask for permission before she does absolutely anything, i.e.:a) tv/computer time or any type of leisure activity
b) when she can to go to bed, shower, eat, leave the room etc.
(Again, If this is going to be incorporated, the HOH needs to tell her that at the start of the "training period" AND if she does anything (during the duration of the training period) without first getting his express permission to do it, she is punished as severely as if she broke a major rule.)

11.) Ordering back rubs, food prepared and served, his bath run, his clothes laid out etc.

12.) Random on the spot bare bottom swats with or without implements. This type of spanking should be administered randomly (i.e.: during a commercial break if your watching tv, by calling her to the room "out of the blue" or if your both in the kitchen/bathroom etc). The HOH can/should do this whenever it crosses his mind of no matter how often that it. Again, this is a reminder of who is in charge.

13.) Sex on demand (or any variation of sex)

14.) Providing a specific chore or errand (or list of) to be completed out of your presence. i.e.: cleaning the bathroom, washing the floor, cleaning out closets, grocery shopping etc.) If a daily list is provided, adding a “discipline” (i.e.: corner time, writing line etc.) to be performed out of his presence and before he returns home is not only an opportunity to “practice” that discipline but helps to build the trust between the couple. (He learns to trust she WILL do it whether he sees it or not and she learns to honor HIS trust in her).

The HOH must interject several of these things into each day.

Anything not immediately and unquestionably submitted to is considered blatant disobedience and warrants either a spot and/or full punishment.

And, of course, any punishments he deems "necessary" during this training period are still administered but they are in addition to practice not instead of and that she is receiving a punishment, not practice, needs to be made clear.

NOTE: Once the training period is over, the HOH can retain the option of re-instituting additional training periods in the future. For example, a week, a month or a year later, the HOH can decide that she needs a "refresher course" on submission and inform her that they will again enter into another training period. The "refresher courses" can be anywhere from a few days long to a few weeks long, the length of time is completely at Michael’s discretion.

Re: Domestic Discipline Bootcamp (for beginners)

Posted: Sun Oct 22, 2017 4:24 am
by Clint
Mt4fun wrote:
Sat Oct 21, 2017 7:40 pm
Michael has been struggling with consistency, and I with becoming a better submissive, so I went digging for more information and ran across a style of a boot camp that may work well for us, especially with children in the house and the inability to have an entire weekend free. This one I found allows a way to work around the children, without them knowing any different. Things can be altered or avoided to work with your particular situation. Does anyone have any other suggestions or ideas, or does this sound like too much?

The initial "set-up" and mindsets necessary for a "training period":

A. The most important thing for the HOH to do is not only to "exert his authority" daily but several times "randomly" throughout the day and night. One specific point: from the start of the "training period" and consistently throughout it, the HOH can and should issue some orders directly and some of them "casually", (like casually during a meal, or while watching television ). Even calling or emailing her from work to have her "submit" to something.

B. He must always use a specific tone of voice and/or address her in a way that cues her in that he is issuing an order. (like using her full name instead of her nickname). FYI: The same tone and manner in which he addresses her (when exerting his authority as HOH) should be carried over into daily life once the training period is over. Recognizing that tone is the easiest habit to learn first and makes the transition into "real life" much smoother.

C. The HOH should additionally issue an "order" at least once in the middle of the night and do this at least 3 times a week (but every night for the duration of the training period is better). Again, this acts as a reminder for the wife of who is in control at all times.
The HOH can also require she sets an alarm to get up at 4:00 or 5:00am to perform some discipline. (i.e. corner or kneeling time, writing lines, doing a chore/task).

D. The HOH should have the mindset that he is issuing orders "because he can" instead of "because she deserves it". Reminding himself that he is teaching her (with her consent) helps remove any "guilt" the HOH may have for issuing random and/or "underserved" disciplines. Following are some suggestions on orders the HOH can issue to teach and/or help his wife practice her submission to him: (fyi: the objective of some of these orders is to humble her):

1.) To start the "training period", the wife should be spanked first thing in the morning or prior to the HOH leaving the house to go to work every morning for the duration of the training period. This can serve as a “Daily Maintenance Spanking” for the duration. The spanking can be a few swats with his belt as he dresses or as severe as the HOH feels like or has the time and/or desire to administer. Establishing this routine for "training" is especially effective in teaching her that, from the moment she wakes up, the HOH is in control. Whether it's a few swats or not, the swats must be painful and serve as a reminder for her throughout the day.

2.) Corner time and/or Kneeling time. (These are always very specific as to the position she should be in, what she is wearing, how long etc.) Using nipple clamps, restraining or positioning her hands/legs, using rice to kneel on or applying a heating lotion can be added to make it more physically uncomfortable and "a harder lesson" to submit to. The HOH can/should also randomly throughout the weeks "double or triple" this time by ordering her to return for another period of kneeling or back to the corner immediately after she "reports" to him that she has completed her "time". He can/should do this as many times as he wants as his continually forcing her to repeat that discipline for up to several hours is, after all, one of the purposes of this period of time: “practice”.

3.) Placing her into "discipline" position. I.e.: ordering her to lie (exposed) over his knee or to bend over the bed, dresser, table, chair etc. and remain in that position until he releases her.
Giving her an actual spanking isn't necessarily required because she's supposed to be "practicing" getting into and staying in position when he tells her to.
She should NOT be told the length of time she is to remain in this position but told to remain there until he releases her.

4.) Enforced Nudity. The HOH randomly and often orders his wife to remove some or all of her clothes. This puts her in a "vulnerable state of mind". He can do this either in the course of routine daily life (like while watching tv or having a meal during which he orders his wife to expose herself to him by unbuttoning or take off her shirt or to remove all of her clothes and just remain that way while they go about whatever they were doing until he tells her to re-dress) or as a specific command for her to present herself before him naked, forcing her to stand before him silently until he tells her to re-dress.
If they are alone in the house, he can order her stand or kneel in the middle of the room while HE goes about whatever he was doing. Or, if there are other people being in the house, he requires her to be naked under a robe and then has the option of ordering her to hold the robe open while she stands or kneels before him with her back to the entrance of the room so that the robe can be immediately closed should anyone approach.
The HOH can choose to lecture her (about his authority, her required submission, negative behaviors etc) during this time or choose to be silent or to ignore her. The point is her nakedness and the vulnerability it produces in her.

5.) Spankings. (Much like maintenance but solely for the "reason" of because he feels like it and these spankings are NOT in place of “morning maintenance”).

6.) Instructing her to ask for a spanking and requiring her to choose the implement. (Obviously an implement or "type" of spanking that they both know she especially dislikes is the goal here).

7.) Requiring her to address him as "Sir" either at all times for the duration of a discipline.

8.) Requiring her to thank him for any and all discipline whether it was spanking or non-spanking discipline and regardless of whether it was punishment or practice.

(#7 and #8 must be clearing established by the HOH at the beginning of the training period if he chooses to employ it for the duration of the training)

9.) Writing lines. They should be specific to a behavior the HOH wants changed/improved. A variation would be to copy (by hand) articles specific to HOH, LDD, submission, etc. or Bible verses, chapters.

10.) Requiring her to ask for permission before she does absolutely anything, i.e.:a) tv/computer time or any type of leisure activity
b) when she can to go to bed, shower, eat, leave the room etc.
(Again, If this is going to be incorporated, the HOH needs to tell her that at the start of the "training period" AND if she does anything (during the duration of the training period) without first getting his express permission to do it, she is punished as severely as if she broke a major rule.)

11.) Ordering back rubs, food prepared and served, his bath run, his clothes laid out etc.

12.) Random on the spot bare bottom swats with or without implements. This type of spanking should be administered randomly (i.e.: during a commercial break if your watching tv, by calling her to the room "out of the blue" or if your both in the kitchen/bathroom etc). The HOH can/should do this whenever it crosses his mind of no matter how often that it. Again, this is a reminder of who is in charge.

13.) Sex on demand (or any variation of sex)

14.) Providing a specific chore or errand (or list of) to be completed out of your presence. i.e.: cleaning the bathroom, washing the floor, cleaning out closets, grocery shopping etc.) If a daily list is provided, adding a “discipline” (i.e.: corner time, writing line etc.) to be performed out of his presence and before he returns home is not only an opportunity to “practice” that discipline but helps to build the trust between the couple. (He learns to trust she WILL do it whether he sees it or not and she learns to honor HIS trust in her).

The HOH must interject several of these things into each day.

Anything not immediately and unquestionably submitted to is considered blatant disobedience and warrants either a spot and/or full punishment.

And, of course, any punishments he deems "necessary" during this training period are still administered but they are in addition to practice not instead of and that she is receiving a punishment, not practice, needs to be made clear.

NOTE: Once the training period is over, the HOH can retain the option of re-instituting additional training periods in the future. For example, a week, a month or a year later, the HOH can decide that she needs a "refresher course" on submission and inform her that they will again enter into another training period. The "refresher courses" can be anywhere from a few days long to a few weeks long, the length of time is completely at Michael’s discretion.

Tracy, great post!

Re: Domestic Discipline Bootcamp (for beginners)

Posted: Sun Oct 22, 2017 9:53 am
by Kerry
Interesting boot camp. I'm open for whatever feels right for 2 people. This seems a lititle overbearing for me, although I would probably go along with it if he wanted to try this. I summarized the softer parts and sent it to him. Personally, I try not to mix sex and discipline. It can become confusing. I already want to please in that area and I don't think we have problems there and slowly we'll figure out what works for us. If I was punished or maintenance occurred and then the closeness led to sexual activity, I'm ok with that. At first we made a rule that should not happen for at least 2 hours but now we figured out sometimes the closeness of the experience just leads to loving sex.

Re: Domestic Discipline Bootcamp (for beginners)

Posted: Sun Oct 22, 2017 2:27 pm
by Mt4fun
Kerry wrote:
Sun Oct 22, 2017 9:53 am
Interesting boot camp. I'm open for whatever feels right for 2 people. This seems a lititle overbearing for me, although I would probably go along with it if he wanted to try this. I summarized the softer parts and sent it to him. Personally, I try not to mix sex and discipline. It can become confusing. I already want to please in that area and I don't think we have problems there and slowly we'll figure out what works for us. If I was punished or maintenance occurred and then the closeness led to sexual activity, I'm ok with that. At first we made a rule that should not happen for at least 2 hours but now we figured out sometimes the closeness of the experience just leads to loving sex.
We don't mix sex with discipline either Kerry, and we don't have a problem in that area either. We're actually closer than we have been in a long time, since we started DD. It really does help a marriage! We've just started the boot camp and hope to improve things even more!