Practicing DD in a family home

[Mr_Nic]

Hello everyone,

I was wondering how couples cope with practicing DD when there are children in the home, especially during this time of COVID with less time when the kids are out of the house. My wife and I are not practicing right now, and one of the main reasons is I’m uncomfortable with the lack of privacy from our younger family members. We have a relatively small home. I’d be grateful for any advice or ideas.

Thanks

Nic

[Lauren]

Do you have a walk in closet in your bedroom? Those work great and are mainly sound proof. Otherwise there is always after bedtime.

[Mr_Nic]

Thanks Lauren! We do have a walk in closet, that’s a great idea. I’ll suggest giving that a go. Our youngster is a very light sleeper so we’d been worried after bedtime wouldn’t be that effective. I wondered if there are any implements that are pretty quiet? We have traditional just used hand or paddle, both of which seem quite loud.

Thanks for the suggestions!

Nic

[junebug2005]

A rubber ruler or silicone spatula are both pretty quiet and not as harsh as the usual quiet implements - cane, loopy, etc.

[Larry]

Small crop is quiet

[Olivia]

If you have a functional attic or basement that might give you a bit more privacy... my husband uses a bamboo stick when he is keeping it quiet

[Larry]

We just purchased a small 14 inch tawse. It’s very effective and quiet as well

[MrX]

Well, this is definitely a topic where I have some expertise to share - we have quite a few kids, ranging from diapers to drivers licenses, and we homeschool - so doing DD with kids around is just something we've had to figure out.

Our current house is a large ranch-style house (sprawling one story with multiple "wings") so that's made it almost too easy because the master suite is very secluded. Once the kids are in bed, I can discipline with no worries of them overhearing. But prior houses were more traditional in their layout, so I've had to figure out how to make it work.

Quiet implements are definitely helpful - switches, wooden spoons, etc. There also are various implements made for drummers to play quietly, and they are VERY effective for quiet discipline as well. (See https://www.amazon.com/Vater-VWHP-Stick ... 0002F56MA/ and https://www.amazon.com/ProMark-T-RODS-P ... 001SEQQE6/ as examples).

And when a longer (and louder) punishment was called for, I'd just tell the kids to go play outside for a while.

[Bratastic]

We go for a ride and do all spanking in the car due to adult kids in the home. That may not be an option as your kids are young?

[Paul_PWE]

That's a really interesting topic.

It might work if the house has a basement with separation, or even an outside shed. I do think it's important though that the kids know that their mother is corrected by their father to reinforce hierarchy roles but they should never know the details or presence any of it. That is so there's a structure where Dad leads, mom answers to dad and the kids answer to both in the order that the final word is always that of the HoH.