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Re: Does the Sub have a say in what becomes a Rule?

Posted: Wed Apr 03, 2019 5:59 pm
by DDwife
Timid wrote:
Thu Nov 01, 2018 9:35 am

Who decides the rules? The Dom, or does the sub get a say? I have always had a problem with smoking. But it's not a problem to me. I only smoke when I'm out drinking with friends that are also smoking, which happens maybe twice a year. So I told him I wanted the freedom to have a cigarette when I'm stressed or whatever. He said Ok, as long as it doesn't become a habit. So fast-forward to last night. My kids were with their dad for Halloween. I was feeling alone and I decided to have a cigarette. It was one. Not even a full one. When he found out he said he was disappointed. I think he wants to add no smoking as a rule but the only thing stopping him is that he smokes cigars when he needs to unwind and he does it more than once a week. So do you have any rules that you disagree with? Do you find yourself breaking those rules more than others? I think if he just put his foot down and said no smoking I would obey because I want to please him, but since he's on the fence... IDK. Thanks guys!
HOH makes our rules. I gave him some things I wanted to change and then he decided if they should be punishable or not. Right now we had the 4 D's in place and that is all. I brought to him the idea of the 4 Ds but he is the one who made the decision to follow them.