How do you spank?

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DesertRose
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Re: How do you spank?

Post by DesertRose » Sat Feb 06, 2021 1:45 pm

Mrsjohn wrote:
Sat Feb 06, 2021 12:34 pm
DesertRose
I've never had a spanking with warm up then implement so I don't know.
I read that warm up minimizes bruises and helps longing the spanking to have a better emotional effect.
🌸 I want a husband who will love me enough to punish me.
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VernAKmiss
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Re: How do you spank?

Post by VernAKmiss » Sat Feb 06, 2021 7:24 pm

How I am spanked:

We do a weekly review where he checks my journal and writings of any infractions. We discuss it and talk about it some depending on what’s in there and also be reminded of all of the rules/goals. I am always fully nude and he usually would start with OTK but being pregnant now that’s not possible at this point so last time I was standing in front of him facing the side and bent over the bed for my spanking. He talks throughout using mostly this wooden spoon with a wide round end that doesn’t have a scoop on the end. So it’s not really a spoon more like a small paddle? But it’s light so it stings. He will alternate between that and his hand, he broke the wooden hair brush we got so I’m not sure if we will
Get another one of those. He will spank and lecture and ask questions about my week and drive home certain points or things he wants me to work on. Then when he’s satisfied and my bottom is pink and warm he will add on the punishment swats (if I earned any that week, if not then he will usually go a little harder with the spoon at the end for the last few spanks) with the paddle with holes. It’s a shorter one so it only hits one side at a time and it hurts sooo dang bad. For these I always have to stand, spread my legs and then bend and grab my ankles. (Being pregnant though now he’s letting me bed and hold the back of the couch). Ugh I hate this position so much. I try not to take my hands off my ankles or pick up my feet but sometimes it’s hard. Usually he tells me how many I’ve earned with the paddle but this last time he didn’t. We’re still learning and tweaking things as we go. He’s used a plug on me before during a spanking and it definitely put me right into submissive mode but it was uncomfortable and made me squirmy. He hasn’t used corner time to reflect after or before but I could definitely see it being useful. I may respectfully bring it up in the coming weeks. He’s getting very good at reading my body language and knowing how long and hard to spank depending on why we’re there.

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Re: How do you spank?

Post by Larry » Sun Feb 07, 2021 2:14 pm

My wife makes me strip naked. Get her the implement she has decided on. She the spanks me and has me stand in the corner afterwards. Sometimes I have to stay naked the rest of the day

Mjiv
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Re: How do you spank?

Post by Mjiv » Thu Apr 22, 2021 5:56 am

How does a brush not break? Ours have always broke easily?
S.K. wrote:
Fri Dec 01, 2017 3:33 pm
Chelsea12 wrote:
Fri Dec 01, 2017 1:57 pm
My usual is a wooden hairbrush OTK. I guess I have a high pain tolerance and no matter how hard he hits his bare hand does not seem to phase me much. With the brush there have been times I have a hard time remaining in position no matter how much I try. His leg over mine helps quite a bit in those instances. Luckily reaching back has not been a problem, for whatever reason I can control that much more.
The brush has more sting to it in the moment but that doesn’t last in my opinion. Seems like it’s deeper and I can feel it longer when he’s used his hand.

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Re: How do you spank?

Post by Mjiv » Thu Apr 22, 2021 6:05 am

Jwalker wrote:
Thu Apr 25, 2019 10:26 pm
I spank fast and hard, no warmup. OTK and with my hand. I try to get it over with quickly and my point across.neither of us gets enjoyment from the experience, and I try to get us back to “us” as quickly as possible
My husband doesn't use a warm up either. Its fast and hard whole way through. He has stopped to ask me a question have I made myself clear before and after I answered continued the spanking. But usually its just the spanking no warm up and talk after he gives me a minute with my face in the pillow to compose my self after the spanking

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Re: How do you spank?

Post by Mjiv » Thu Apr 22, 2021 6:14 am

No lotion or anything here. In the beginning he actually made it a rule. No magnesium butter or spray or baths with magnesium. To help relieve the spanking. When we first started our journey. He caught me putting magnesium spray on. We went from the bathroom back to the bedroom. I got the belt bare on top of already being sore. Now its an official rule. Nothing to relieve pain after a spanking. The purpose of a spanking is for it to hurt and for you to learn a lesson for bad behavior. If you dont want a sore butt behave is what I'm told. Its supposed to hurt.
Olivia wrote:
Sun Dec 01, 2019 10:37 am
I have to go to the corner before being spanked, then we talk, then he punishes me. I have to lay on the bed and he usually uses a wooden paddle, leather strap or the naughty stick (which is like a cane). Often enough, he will make me pick out what he's going to use and that always puts a knot in my stomach! He will lecture me through out the punishment and there are questions about my behaviour he has me answer....this really connects my behavior to the punishment and what he expects from me moving forward. I have a really difficult time staying still and try as I do, I can't stay still during a spanking or keep my hands from going back :( After a spanking he will hug me and say something along the lines of he loves me and that we can still have a good day. I'm not allowed to rub my bottom after a spanking and he certainly doesn't apply lotion or do anything to make it feel better lol.... maybe a handful of times I've had to either stay on the bed or in the corner after a spanking because I was really naughty or needed time to collect myself but that's not usually the case, usually when it's over, it's over!

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Re: How do you spank?

Post by Mjiv » Thu Apr 22, 2021 6:19 am

Question about canes. Im assuming people are not talking about thick walking type canes. Anyone have links to what a spanking cane actually looks like?

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Re: How do you spank?

Post by Lauren » Thu Apr 22, 2021 9:37 am

Mjiv wrote:
Thu Apr 22, 2021 6:19 am
Question about canes. Im assuming people are not talking about thick walking type canes. Anyone have links to what a spanking cane actually looks like?
A quick Google search of "spanking cane" or "rattan cane" will show you what people are talking about.

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