DesertRose wrote: ↑
Wed Nov 25, 2020 10:58 am
MrX wrote: ↑
Wed Nov 25, 2020 10:11 am
I would say that I am successful 9 out of 10 times. (I will add the caveat - we've been doing DD for over 20 years, so I know my wife very well. Early in our marriage, I was probably only successful at stopping her attitude from escalating 1 out of 100 times).
I'll add a couple recent examples in my journal thread here.
So it's all comes down to life experience.
I read the examples you wrote on your journal. Excellent. Thank you very much.
Much of it comes down to experience, although I wouldn't want to discourage anyone - we probably went from 1 out 100 to 1 out of 10 in a matter of a year or less.
One theme that you'll see from me over and over on this forum as I talk about DD - the DD husband has a special and unique responsibility to learn their wife inside and out - mind, body, and soul.
This goes for preventing misbehavior. The husband should endeavor to learn to read their wife so that they know when she is headed into trouble well before she does. He should be able to read the warning signs a mile ahead. More than that, he should know the variables that go into her behavior - for example, I know that when my wife gets less than a certain amount of sleep, or when she eats certain things, or when she is in front of a screen for too long, or when she is with certain people for too long - that I need to keep an especially close eye out to protect her.
In addition, a DD husband knowing his wife inside and out also translates to discipline. I can reduce my wife to remorseful tears with a hand spanking, and I can have her learn absolutely nothing from a severe paddling. Spanking is just as much mental and emotional as it is physical - a lot of men don't get that.
So all that to say - it's less about life
experience, and more about wife
experience. The more seriously a DD husband takes his responsibility, and the more he becomes an active student of his wife, the more effective he can be in protecting her from getting in trouble and correcting her when she does get in trouble.