I made a HUGE mistake

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Flrswats2
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I made a HUGE mistake

Post by Flrswats2 » Sat Jul 18, 2020 8:02 pm

Haven’t posted here in a while. Mrs. Swats and I reignited our FLR/DD Agreement about a month ago. With everything shutting down in March it was very hard to stay on track. Life was crazy but our marriage suffered because if it.

Anyway, I made a pretty big mistake today. I was EXTREMELY FRUSTRATED with her all day because she wasn’t being clear about our plans. I had other plans already but I wanted to be available to her and the kids in case she had decided she wanted me to go with. So I scratched my plans and basically waited around all day for her to eventually decide we weren’t gonna do anything at all.

In my fit of anger I yelled at her and told her if she didn’t know how to make an “F****ing” decision than she shouldn’t be in charge anyway.......

She told me to stop talking immediately and that tonight when the kids go to bed we have a lot to talk to about.....🤦‍♂️

I know exactly what that means. Anybody know how I might go about trying to explain my frustration or should I just keep my mouth shut, take whatever whooping is coming my way and move on down the road???

Pink cheeks
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Re: I made a HUGE mistake

Post by Pink cheeks » Sat Jul 18, 2020 8:31 pm

Flrswats2 wrote:
Sat Jul 18, 2020 8:02 pm
Haven’t posted here in a while. Mrs. Swats and I reignited our FLR/DD Agreement about a month ago. With everything shutting down in March it was very hard to stay on track. Life was crazy but our marriage suffered because if it.

Anyway, I made a pretty big mistake today. I was EXTREMELY FRUSTRATED with her all day because she wasn’t being clear about our plans. I had other plans already but I wanted to be available to her and the kids in case she had decided she wanted me to go with. So I scratched my plans and basically waited around all day for her to eventually decide we weren’t gonna do anything at all.

In my fit of anger I yelled at her and told her if she didn’t know how to make an “F****ing” decision than she shouldn’t be in charge anyway.......

She told me to stop talking immediately and that tonight when the kids go to bed we have a lot to talk to about.....🤦‍♂️

I know exactly what that means. Anybody know how I might go about trying to explain my frustration or should I just keep my mouth shut, take whatever whooping is coming my way and move on down the road???
I guess you’ll get to do both. Explain and take the whoopin

Flrswats2
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Re: I made a HUGE mistake

Post by Flrswats2 » Sat Jul 18, 2020 8:55 pm

Thanks Pink Cheeks! I’m not the best at communicating when I’m angry. I wish I could cut the tongue out of my mouth when I get like that but instead I just say something totally out of line. I’m hoping for grace and understanding from her but I’m not really expecting it.

Lauren
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Re: I made a HUGE mistake

Post by Lauren » Sat Jul 18, 2020 10:39 pm

Did she know you had plans for today? If so then I would calmly explain why you were upset. And take the whoopin. If she did not know then that's on you. We can't expect our partners to read our minds. Apologize for snapping and explain why you were upset. Than take the whoopin.

Flrswats2
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Re: I made a HUGE mistake

Post by Flrswats2 » Sun Jul 19, 2020 2:09 am

Lauren, thanks for the reply. I don’t think I did a good enough job of making my plans clear to her. Mainly because if she wanted me to accompany her or watch the kids for her I wanted to be available to her. She watches them all week and this was gonna be a chance for her to get out and do something for her. But I was hoping for more clear instruction for me and it never came. I definitely should have communicate my expectation better and she probably could have given me a more clear directive.

And yes I’m writing this on a crimson red bottom. I was shown no mercy because of the way I spoke to her. I was given a 10 minute spanking with her hand, a strap and a wooden lollipop paddle. She made it very clear that I could have handled this in a much more respectful way and I agree. I apologized and we move on down the road.

Olivia
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Re: I made a HUGE mistake

Post by Olivia » Sun Jul 19, 2020 11:37 am

Oh my gosh, I'm just reading this. I hate when frustration gets the better of me and I lose control... I'm glad that you were able to take responsibility for your outburst, learn from the consequences and have a good attitude while you move on down the road! Hope today goes a lot better for ya!

Hunterjumper38
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Re: I made a HUGE mistake

Post by Hunterjumper38 » Sun Jul 19, 2020 3:19 pm

I hate it when my emotions control my mouth. That is a huge issue with me as well. I’m sorry that you had a rough day but it sounds like you both have a great relationship. Welcome to the forum!

Flrswats2
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Re: I made a HUGE mistake

Post by Flrswats2 » Sun Jul 19, 2020 5:14 pm

I super appreciate everyone’s encouragement! I have had a tough time sitting today and the wooden chairs at the restaurant we went to for lunch didn’t help any. Haha But it’s a good reminder of what got me into that situation yesterday and yes today has been a much better day! Thank y’all!!

Olivia
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Re: I made a HUGE mistake

Post by Olivia » Sun Jul 19, 2020 10:52 pm

Lol, you have a good attitude! I hope this week is a good one!! I
absolutely remember one time I had a similar experience and I had to walk through a nearly empty restaurant of cushy booths to the wooden chair table they sat us at and for the bonus points, past a couple friends lol gets you in check for sure! Hope y'all have a good week!

Flrswats2
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Re: I made a HUGE mistake

Post by Flrswats2 » Mon Jul 20, 2020 10:54 am

Olivia, thanks for the encouragement! That’s one part about our journey that’s a little difficult is knowing my wife uses corporal punishment in our marriage and our friends don’t know. Or not being able to talk about it with my golf buddies. Her best friend is extremely strict with her husband. And both my wife and I each have our suspicions that they also are FLR but she has never brought it up and they have been friends for 11 years. I’m so, so, friends with the husband but nothing that would ever put us in the same locker room together. I have tried befriending him but he’s more reserved and not as outgoing. I wouldn’t be surprised if they are FLR but I think It would shock them to know we are. Does that make sense? Lol

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