Domestic Discipline Forum

I have no idea who came up with the idea or term for maintenance. It could seem anywhere from odd to illogical to cruel and it’s something, not unlike DD, that you either get it or you don’t and explanations may not help. I do know that most submissives I’ve heard of either really want or at least r...

I’d like to reiterate what Lauren said. Punishments can be MUCH tamer if it’s right for you. We were doing intense spankings for fun before we started DD so for us punishment has to be pretty hard core. And I like it that way. If you’re totally new to spanking you should start out very mild. If you’...

My point of view: submission is biblical, a husband punishing his wife is not mentioned. We use DD because it improves our marriage not because we think God wants us to. Both punishment and maintenance spankings help our relationship and me personally, so we use them both. I feel strongly that if a ...

Welcome and good luck

It takes a long time to grasp and accept and embrace and then learn to perform consistently (stop old habits, make new ones) for submission and respect and putting someone else’s needs first. More than five months. That’s how long we’re into it too. I’m still very much a work in progress. Your consi...

What a great story! I think it shows so much to admire about you both and I’m so pleased to hear what it’s done for your marriage! I identify with many parts of it, especially the cartoon hearts (great way to describe it) and that you were ashamed that you were interested in spanking for a long time...

I agree. Even at our worst we do pretty well here comparatively. I have a theory that the phenomenon of internet anonymity can create the same kind of unfiltered wreckless behavior seen in mobs. We do need to be careful though.

I don’t want to counter anything Krystal wrote so this isn’t a rebuttal in any way. I just want to add to it in hopes of being helpful. On the issue of bruises, lacerations and muscle pain—I have had all three. K and I have no problem with those things. Bruises are frequent, muscle soreness is of mo...

Hmmmm. I’ve had a punishment or two that I thought was excessive and my husband thought it was appropriate and I was able to accept that and be ok with a feeling of submission even when I disagree. I’ve alao had several that I thought were too light. This kind of difference of opinion is unavoidable...

Only a few weeks after very unhappily letting my first born head for college in Virginia thousands of miles from home she now has to face a hurricane! This is NOT COOL universe! The school has been working with students on what to expect and how to prepare thank goodness. But I’m nervous. Her apartm...