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by HoldsTheKey
Fri Feb 08, 2019 8:55 am
Forum: Introduction
Topic: Hello...I see a lot of fellow Texans here
Replies: 9
Views: 1290

Re: Hello...I see a lot of fellow Texans here

Welcome StrangeLove, and thanks for your intro! (Also from Texas, though no longer live there.) How you came to the lifestyle sounds similar to my own (check my post history); we didn't have strong elements of this in the bedroom, but my wife did not bring the concept to me, which seems to be more c...
by HoldsTheKey
Wed Jan 30, 2019 10:26 am
Forum: Public Domestic Discipline And Spanking Section
Topic: What are some things you didn’t know until you started DD?
Replies: 21
Views: 4787

Re: What are some things you didn’t know until you started DD?

This is interesting.. maybe you want to reverse your roles? It's not crazy that you'd think that! But we've talked a lot about it and as much as I'd like it, I just don't think it would work that way. My wife's need for control is more of a response to a lack of confidence that things are being dea...
by HoldsTheKey
Tue Jan 29, 2019 8:32 am
Forum: Public Domestic Discipline And Spanking Section
Topic: What are some things you didn’t know until you started DD?
Replies: 21
Views: 4787

Re: What are some things you didn’t know until you started DD?

(I am a male and the HoH) - I learned that I lack a lot of confidence - I learned that I am naturally a more submissive person and it takes effort for me to be dominant - I learned that my wife, while submissive, likes to be in control and dislikes being out of control - I learned that when my wife ...
by HoldsTheKey
Sat Jan 26, 2019 10:53 am
Forum: Public Domestic Discipline And Spanking Section
Topic: To come clean or not
Replies: 7
Views: 2116

Re: To come clean or not

The thing is I’m not even certain I did run the light (pretty sure I did though) That's how you approach it then. "Honey, I'm not even sure if I did, but I have a feeling I could have ran a red light. I just want to give you a heads up in case I did." This means you will not be withholding informat...
by HoldsTheKey
Fri Jan 25, 2019 1:14 pm
Forum: Public Domestic Discipline And Spanking Section
Topic: To come clean or not
Replies: 7
Views: 2116

Re: To come clean or not

would you be more leiant if they came forward than if they didn’t and you somehow found out? Technically, I suppose so. If I didn't know and found out on my own, there would be two infractions: withholding information, plus running the red light. If my wife came forward proactively there would only...
by HoldsTheKey
Thu Jan 24, 2019 10:37 am
Forum: Introduction
Topic: We're back for round two
Replies: 3
Views: 750

We're back for round two

Hello everyone! My wife and I are back for round two of our attempt to integrate domestic discipline into our lives and marriage. This past summer, I introduced us to the forum and talked about how, after 15 years of marriage, we came to the realization that my wife needs the same authoritarian, rig...
by HoldsTheKey
Wed Jan 23, 2019 2:55 pm
Forum: Public Domestic Discipline And Spanking Section
Topic: The "obliger" tendency and its relation to DD
Replies: 4
Views: 905

The "obliger" tendency and its relation to DD

Hi y'all. Long time no chat. Last summer my wife and I entered into a formal DD agreement with me as HoH. (You can pipe through my history to see introduction posts with a ton more info.) After about two months, we unfortunately fizzled out. I'll spare you the details for now, but the short of it is...
by HoldsTheKey
Tue Jun 12, 2018 11:31 am
Forum: Introduction
Topic: Hello from a new guy
Replies: 8
Views: 1372

Re: Hello from a new guy

Thanks everyone, glad to be here. To answer a few questions: I like your name HoldTheKey, how did you come up with that name? There was a key sitting on my desk when I registered, and I thought it was fitting as I feel like I hold the key to my wife's ability to be the best person she can be. There ...
by HoldsTheKey
Mon Jun 11, 2018 4:08 pm
Forum: Introduction
Topic: Hello from a new guy
Replies: 8
Views: 1372

Hello from a new guy

My wife and I recently entered a more formal domestic discipline agreement, by her choosing. We've been together for 15 years, married for 9. We got along well, but like most couples suffered increasing arguments, bouts of miscommunication, and periods of angst towards each other as the years went o...