Domestic Discipline Forum

Oh my. Is saying when it rains it pours too punny for this serious situation? I’m so glad you have faith to help you cope. Being trained by the gospel to stay grateful when you feel like you’re getting hit from all sides is a great blessing.

Good post Clint. I like your emphasis on kindness and positivity as ways for a leader to interact in the home. At college I studied management types and the proven most effective is a kind manager who leads by example, inspiring compliance. Coercion and denigration are more popular styles but way le...

I’m so glad to hear that it helped you! Great job being patient and being willing to keep being patient.

Wow. What he suspects you of is really horrible and, as you said, makes no sense. But I recognize it. My husbands ex was a nasty person who used tears and emotion to manipulate and if she apologized it was always sarcastic. He often is convinced that I’m being insincere or manipulative. I am a total...

In the beginning I questioned if I was crazy too. A lot. But I finally got over that. I’ve never regretted doing it. It’s brought almost all positive things and very little negative. Unless you count right during a punishment. I worried a lot about asking my husband to take on the big responsibility...

I have no idea who came up with the idea or term for maintenance. It could seem anywhere from odd to illogical to cruel and it’s something, not unlike DD, that you either get it or you don’t and explanations may not help. I do know that most submissives I’ve heard of either really want or at least r...

I’d like to reiterate what Lauren said. Punishments can be MUCH tamer if it’s right for you. We were doing intense spankings for fun before we started DD so for us punishment has to be pretty hard core. And I like it that way. If you’re totally new to spanking you should start out very mild. If you’...

My point of view: submission is biblical, a husband punishing his wife is not mentioned. We use DD because it improves our marriage not because we think God wants us to. Both punishment and maintenance spankings help our relationship and me personally, so we use them both. I feel strongly that if a ...

Welcome and good luck

It takes a long time to grasp and accept and embrace and then learn to perform consistently (stop old habits, make new ones) for submission and respect and putting someone else’s needs first. More than five months. That’s how long we’re into it too. I’m still very much a work in progress. Your consi...